WK 4 Myself as a communicator

So I asked two people to evaluate me, I can't say I was surprised by their answers because we are different people. I think it's good that all three of had different scores in at 2 areas and the same in 1 area. Before I continue about the evaluations, if you think about it, the people we hang around are a image of how we feel about ourselves and our values. All three of us had the same score in listening, two of us had the same score in verbal, and all three of us had different scores for communication. I learned that my first impressions are different for all people. I also learned that I need to be more open when meeting new people and not assume the worst.

Week 3

Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?
• yes


If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently?

•  I was recently in a relationship with this guy from Monaco, we had a difficult time communicating, not because we are from different backgrounds, but because he refused to listen to me and understand what I would say. After I realized he didn't understand how I communicated, I began cutting my sentences down to a few words, the main words in the sentence so he would understand. He also said I talked too fast, which was another reason he couldn't understand when I talked. For example, I asked him in his family are women seen and not heard? He didn't understand what I was saying, I had to change the form of my original question 3 times.
• When I talk to my co-workers I have to change my vocabulary to sound intelligent, I couldn't use street jargon or everyday verbiage. I work with foster parents, therapist, and social workers, so how I communicate is very important.

TV show

Watch the show with the sound turned off.

• What do you think the characters' relationships are based on the ways in which they are communicating?
• The characters appeared to have loving relationships. When they were communicating they were making eye contact. There were times when they were sitting down and the men had their arms around the woman or the woman had their hands on the man's leg. 
• What are they feeling and expressing based on the nonverbal behavior you are observing?
• You could tell when, they were in disagreement based on how their affect. Some were rolling their eyes, frowning, giving a mean glare, or turned the other direction. At the same time when they were in agreement there was smiling, laughter, touching, and hugging.  

Now, watch the show with the sound turned on.

• What assumptions did you make about the characters and plot based on the ways in which you interpreted the communication you observed?
• I assumed the characters were loving and had good communication skills. I also assumed the characters showed care and concern for each other. I was right on some levels and on some levels I was wrong. 
• Would your assumptions have been more correct if you had been watching a show you know well?
• No, I believe they would have been about the same if I was watching a show I normally watch. 

Communication

For your blog this week, think of someone (e.g., family member, celebrity, politician, friend, or professor) who demonstrates competent communication within a particular context. What behaviors does this person exhibit that make him or her effective? Would you want to model some of your own communication behaviors after this person? Why or why not?

When my mom talks to other people, she listens to them intently and doesn't interrupt them when they are talking. She always talked in a calm voice.I would copy her ways of communication, she was calm and showed interest in what they people were saying.